Comments on: Reasons to Quit Marijuana #3 - Relationships http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/ Stop Smoking Pot for Good! Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:39:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3 By: Sirena http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-4883 Sirena Sat, 27 Dec 2008 05:10:39 +0000 http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-4883 I really appreciate the honesty and sensitivity of the comments of you all. I have a big dilemma. I have been with a beautiful man for almost 7 years, but he is a pot smoker, morning, night, every day. He holds down a job, and does it very well, but there is so much you have all written here that I can relate to. I do not smoke - I used to enjoy a puff, but living with an addict really turns you off the stuff. He too has lied about how much he smokes - I only recently discovered he was still smoking in the morning before work. He spends a lot of time sitting in front of the TV after work, or on video games, and I wonder if that's part of the dope, and how it sucks energy from him. It's all getting a little too much for me, I want more from life, more from my man, and I'm now toying with the thought of leaving. I don't want to, but when he is adamant that he will not change, that he likes the dope, that he still holds down a job, etc etc, you know the spiel, what am I to do? In the past, he has tried to curtail the habit, but now seems to have completely given up and resents me questioning his addiction. I do not want to live like this - it seems to me that the only choice I have is to leave. Any thoughts? I really appreciate the honesty and sensitivity of the comments of you all. I have a big dilemma. I have been with a beautiful man for almost 7 years, but he is a pot smoker, morning, night, every day. He holds down a job, and does it very well, but there is so much you have all written here that I can relate to. I do not smoke - I used to enjoy a puff, but living with an addict really turns you off the stuff. He too has lied about how much he smokes - I only recently discovered he was still smoking in the morning before work. He spends a lot of time sitting in front of the TV after work, or on video games, and I wonder if that’s part of the dope, and how it sucks energy from him. It’s all getting a little too much for me, I want more from life, more from my man, and I’m now toying with the thought of leaving. I don’t want to, but when he is adamant that he will not change, that he likes the dope, that he still holds down a job, etc etc, you know the spiel, what am I to do? In the past, he has tried to curtail the habit, but now seems to have completely given up and resents me questioning his addiction. I do not want to live like this - it seems to me that the only choice I have is to leave. Any thoughts?

]]> By: john with the broken bong http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-4437 john with the broken bong Sun, 21 Dec 2008 19:06:33 +0000 http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-4437 i just want to tell everyone who wants to quit to stay with it and it will get allot better as the time goes by. i started smoked at 18 and now i am 28 years old and smoked all day everyday. I am 13 days sober and feel great, i still itch a little bit when it comes to recording my music cuz i always did it high but i feel so much better and intend to never smoke again. at the time of quiting i was spending 20-25 dollars a day on it which is adding to between 500-600 a month which makes me sick. Im fortunate that i own my own business and do very good for myself but regardless that is just a waste of money and it was affecting my pockets becuase im trying to buy a new truck and house with my wife. I dont know what to say, just stay with it because pot dosent do shit except hinder your true genuine character and people look at you like a dumb person with your eyes all red, poor posture and stoner talk which never comes out intelligent. i also suffer from hardcore depression and thats why i was smoking so much but i just started some anti-depressants (celexa) and its helping me plus its legal and more healty instead of unregulated self medication of smelly leaves that made my whole life a frigen complete mess. i felt like a complete junkie, and to whoever says weed is not addictive they can kiss my ass, if you do some investigating a doctor did a study on heavy everyday smokers and when the withdrawals started they rated it a 6.7 and cocaine withdrawal was close at a 7.6.......the scale was composed from 1-10 by this certain clinic that studies addiction so its not as bad as herion but not far from coke....i never tried coke so i have no idea how hard it is.....good luck everyone, stay strong....before u take that next hit....look at your mothers face or your spouse or whatever and ask for help first....its worth it....get ya frigen life back and stop procrastinating ...START TODAY, throw ya weed out and smash ya pipes....dont be a slave BE STRONG!!!!ITS NOT COOL NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT IS GLORIFIED ON TV< MOVIES AND MUSIC!!!!!its just a bunch of bullshit i just want to tell everyone who wants to quit to stay with it and it will get allot better as the time goes by. i started smoked at 18 and now i am 28 years old and smoked all day everyday. I am 13 days sober and feel great, i still itch a little bit when it comes to recording my music cuz i always did it high but i feel so much better and intend to never smoke again. at the time of quiting i was spending 20-25 dollars a day on it which is adding to between 500-600 a month which makes me sick. Im fortunate that i own my own business and do very good for myself but regardless that is just a waste of money and it was affecting my pockets becuase im trying to buy a new truck and house with my wife. I dont know what to say, just stay with it because pot dosent do shit except hinder your true genuine character and people look at you like a dumb person with your eyes all red, poor posture and stoner talk which never comes out intelligent. i also suffer from hardcore depression and thats why i was smoking so much but i just started some anti-depressants (celexa) and its helping me plus its legal and more healty instead of unregulated self medication of smelly leaves that made my whole life a frigen complete mess. i felt like a complete junkie, and to whoever says weed is not addictive they can kiss my ass, if you do some investigating a doctor did a study on heavy everyday smokers and when the withdrawals started they rated it a 6.7 and cocaine withdrawal was close at a 7.6…….the scale was composed from 1-10 by this certain clinic that studies addiction so its not as bad as herion but not far from coke….i never tried coke so i have no idea how hard it is…..good luck everyone, stay strong….before u take that next hit….look at your mothers face or your spouse or whatever and ask for help first….its worth it….get ya frigen life back and stop procrastinating …START TODAY, throw ya weed out and smash ya pipes….dont be a slave BE STRONG!!!!ITS NOT COOL NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT IS GLORIFIED ON TV< MOVIES AND MUSIC!!!!!its just a bunch of bullshit

]]> By: Samantha http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-3913 Samantha Sat, 13 Dec 2008 15:40:04 +0000 http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-3913 I have read all of these stories and feel completely overwhelmed. My boyfriend has been a pot smoker for 8 years now. We met through a mutual friend and, I feel, have a great time together. Last night, after he got high, he started to freak out on me. Thinking that he wasn't into me, I started asking questions, trying to relieve my own anxiety. People had warned me before dating him that I might run into alot of trouble, but I have to say, despite the drug use, he is the best person I've ever dated. Compassionate, understanding, supportive, and everything i've ever wanted. Before this, I'd never dated anyone who smoked. But now, reading these blogs, I can honestly say I feel hopeless. My younger brother is an avid pot smoker, and I see the same withdrawn person in him. Im returning to nursing school in a month, and I just can't deal with this additional stress. I know if confronted with the issue, he will deny it but I feel like his recent bout of anxiety related to us has EVERYTHING to do with the weed. I told him I would never change him, and I feel like it's time that I face facts. People who abuse any type of drug tend to live for themselves, and I am the complete opposite of that. I never wanted to be in a selfish relationship again, but I've found myself feeling like if its me or the weed, he will choose the weed. Hes already told me he has had several failed relationships due to the fact. So I guess my point is, its extremely frustrating and sad to see the people you love waste their potential, and its even harder to let go of them for fear of them hurting you. I wish you all the best and I hope and pray that you find whatever cures your addictions. And to those that are afraid to lose a loved one; sometimes you can't fix others and you have to step up and be selfish for fearing of parishing. I know I dont want to feel unloved like this right now. I have read all of these stories and feel completely overwhelmed. My boyfriend has been a pot smoker for 8 years now. We met through a mutual friend and, I feel, have a great time together. Last night, after he got high, he started to freak out on me. Thinking that he wasn’t into me, I started asking questions, trying to relieve my own anxiety. People had warned me before dating him that I might run into alot of trouble, but I have to say, despite the drug use, he is the best person I’ve ever dated. Compassionate, understanding, supportive, and everything i’ve ever wanted. Before this, I’d never dated anyone who smoked. But now, reading these blogs, I can honestly say I feel hopeless. My younger brother is an avid pot smoker, and I see the same withdrawn person in him. Im returning to nursing school in a month, and I just can’t deal with this additional stress. I know if confronted with the issue, he will deny it but I feel like his recent bout of anxiety related to us has EVERYTHING to do with the weed. I told him I would never change him, and I feel like it’s time that I face facts. People who abuse any type of drug tend to live for themselves, and I am the complete opposite of that. I never wanted to be in a selfish relationship again, but I’ve found myself feeling like if its me or the weed, he will choose the weed. Hes already told me he has had several failed relationships due to the fact. So I guess my point is, its extremely frustrating and sad to see the people you love waste their potential, and its even harder to let go of them for fear of them hurting you. I wish you all the best and I hope and pray that you find whatever cures your addictions. And to those that are afraid to lose a loved one; sometimes you can’t fix others and you have to step up and be selfish for fearing of parishing. I know I dont want to feel unloved like this right now.

]]> By: wrecked http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-3890 wrecked Fri, 12 Dec 2008 05:54:30 +0000 http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-3890 This is really great to be hearing from so many people that are down with quitting. I smoked for 12 years non stop, and basically killed my social life. I dont have to tell you what it was doing to me, cuz we all know. i devoloped Depersonalization Disorder 6 months ago. Basically I feel high 24/7 even when not smoking. like im constently in a dream state, out of body, dizzy. i tried to smoke more to cover up the feeling of the DD, but that only made it worse to the point where i thought i might be loosing my mind. High grade marijuana is a common factor in DD, and ive been smoking nothing but for half my life. If youre reading this and thinking about quiting, research depersonalization disorder and read all the horror stories about how much it sucks/effects your life. not saying it would/could/will happen to any of you, but it did to me. I loved my pot, and it mostly was my best friend (stupid right?) but i hate that i couldnt control my use and it got the better of me. its too late to go back now, Im just left to deal with my perma-fried state. its been two months since ive touched dope, but i havnt noticed a change yet. maybe another two months and ill feel alright. One thing i know is, im not smoking again and thats ok with me. I miss MJ, but my time with her is done. good luck all! ~Wrecked~ This is really great to be hearing from so many people that are down with quitting. I smoked for 12 years non stop, and basically killed my social life. I dont have to tell you what it was doing to me, cuz we all know. i devoloped Depersonalization Disorder 6 months ago. Basically I feel high 24/7 even when not smoking. like im constently in a dream state, out of body, dizzy. i tried to smoke more to cover up the feeling of the DD, but that only made it worse to the point where i thought i might be loosing my mind. High grade marijuana is a common factor in DD, and ive been smoking nothing but for half my life. If youre reading this and thinking about quiting, research depersonalization disorder and read all the horror stories about how much it sucks/effects your life. not saying it would/could/will happen to any of you, but it did to me. I loved my pot, and it mostly was my best friend (stupid right?) but i hate that i couldnt control my use and it got the better of me. its too late to go back now, Im just left to deal with my perma-fried state. its been two months since ive touched dope, but i havnt noticed a change yet. maybe another two months and ill feel alright. One thing i know is, im not smoking again and thats ok with me. I miss MJ, but my time with her is done.
good luck all!
~Wrecked~

]]> By: Adisa http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-3855 Adisa Tue, 09 Dec 2008 02:03:28 +0000 http://www.marijuana-addict.com/2007/11/personal-experience/reasons-to-quit-marijuana-3-relationships/#comment-3855 Oh man does this hit home. I'm 25 and a college grad...but it took me 6 years to get a degree. And I know for a fact that it was partially due to me smoking weed the majority of college. One reason for me quitting was a desire to do better with my life. I never though about life after college until I quit smoking that hellish plant. Relationships were another issue. Not ONE successful healthy relationship until now. 4 of my past boyfriends were stoners. I never was very discerning about who I was dating, because I was high all the time and "free spirited". And if a guy had access to the fire, it was a done deal. I finally had to ask myself in the last weed-induced relationship what I really saw in my significant other. Because I could get along with anybody when I was high. I also look back at my college days at a time when I found myself with no friends. I abandoned all my academically driven friends for my growing circle of potheads. No "good times" to look back on. I'm very greatful for the opportunity to quit. Some people can casually smoke but I have accepted that I am not one of them. The biggest reason for this is the fact that I am a depressed person. I now believe, however, that depression can be a healthy thing. It's the frustration with my life that has urged me on to better things. When I was stoned I was soooo afraid of hard work and having responsibilities. Now I think I am ready for them, and I welcome them. I just want to be who I was meant to be. Oh man does this hit home. I’m 25 and a college grad…but it took me 6 years to get a degree. And I know for a fact that it was partially due to me smoking weed the majority of college. One reason for me quitting was a desire to do better with my life. I never though about life after college until I quit smoking that hellish plant.

Relationships were another issue. Not ONE successful healthy relationship until now. 4 of my past boyfriends were stoners. I never was very discerning about who I was dating, because I was high all the time and “free spirited”. And if a guy had access to the fire, it was a done deal. I finally had to ask myself in the last weed-induced relationship what I really saw in my significant other. Because I could get along with anybody when I was high.

I also look back at my college days at a time when I found myself with no friends. I abandoned all my academically driven friends for my growing circle of potheads. No “good times” to look back on.

I’m very greatful for the opportunity to quit. Some people can casually smoke but I have accepted that I am not one of them. The biggest reason for this is the fact that I am a depressed person. I now believe, however, that depression can be a healthy thing. It’s the frustration with my life that has urged me on to better things. When I was stoned I was soooo afraid of hard work and having responsibilities. Now I think I am ready for them, and I welcome them. I just want to be who I was meant to be.

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