MY prayers are for you and your family….

I know how it feels to watch a great human being being rundown by substance abuse 1) alcohol or 2) weed

Its deeper than an addiction sometimes. Have you considered that? For example, your husband may be depressed about certain things such as his GOAL in LIFE.

When someone has NO GOAL, he will be VERY SUSCEPTIBLE to substance abuse because he does not know how to fill that void.

There are other factors as well… does he feel “anxious” all the time??

Perhaps he developped General Anxiety disorder and he’s medicating to help himself cope with his physical symptoms?

I know I have, GAD + Panic attacks have made it EASIER
for me to adopt a substance abuse lifestyle.

Also, not having a CLEARLY DEFINED PURPSE/GOAL can make a person feel “empty”.

When he waks up in the morning, he should be working towards his goals. Even if he doesn’t reach them anytime soon, he will feel successful, this is POWERFUL if he knows he’s progressing towards his worthy “dream”.

He has to UNDERSTAND, what he is LETTING GO by smoking pot since he will NEVER be able NOT to abuse it.

I hope it helps you, get him to listen to

Earl Nightingale on youtube. YOu will understand what I mean.

G’day mate, good for you for thinking about quitting. I have to tell you, the reality is , is that life is actually easier without dope. I stopped at easter time, but I have had a couple of joints on about five occassions since then. You know, I think it is good to get stoned again, but then if I have to face people stoned, I feel really self concious, and i no longer like the feeling of not being in control.

I never had an eating problem when quitting. It can affect your appetite at first, but that came good after a week or so. You do need to stick with it. All ths negative affects you may feel is not because of the lack of dope, its because you are getting that dope out of your system, and it can take a month or so.

Unfortunatley, you may have to stay away from your stoner mates for a while. If you are like me and enjoyed a spliff, it can be too easy to have just a puff. You need to give yourself a break. Quittign can be hard, so no point making it any harder.

Good luck, Trevor

Jump to today, I’ve only been graduated(I barely made it too, since I went to about 1/4 of my classes my senior year)since May, and I already feel myself falling into the same circle. I’ve reconnected with my stoner friends from home, getting cheap/free weed whenever I want it. I don’t have a job yet, and not for lack of trying either. That’s the most depressing part, a 4 year computer network and systems admin degree and nobody will even call or e-mail me back. This only makes me more lethargic, and want to smoke more pot just to forget about it.

Anyway back to quiting. I’ve tried a handful of times before, mostly when I was coming down from a hard binge, and started getting angry with myself for all the things I didn’t do for the last week. It’s funny what a pot head will tell himself to justify blowing off friends, girlfriends, family, school. It makes me break down when I think about all the people that were counting on me, and I let them down because I wanted to get high, or was high. At this point I feel like I can’t even function without pot. I can’t even eat unless I’m high, and even then it’s always small portions. I’ve had to leave dinner with my girlfriend and her family multiple times to go throw up because I was trying to eat when I wasn’t stoned. It sickens me to lie to them about having the flu, when I want so bad to be able to tell her and have her help me. I can’t do that now though, not after years of telling her that I only use it a few times a month. It would break her and I need her to be strong, even if she doesn’t know it.

It’s so frustrating having this voice inside saying that weed is great and will fix all your problems, but you know for a fact that it only hurts you in the long run. I know that I’ll never be able to use marijuana casually, I need to stop doing this to myself and my friends.

For me the worst part is not being able to eat when quiting. The insomnia thing I’ve never had, maybe I just haven’t gone long enough without it for the real widthdrawl to start. My goal is to eat a full meal, without the aid of pot, in 2 weeks.