One of the most difficult things someone who quits marijuana goes through is how friends and friendships change with people who still smoke weed. As someone who has quit marijuana, I know the difficulty of this situation and have some advice. Knowing how to manage your relationships when you first quit marijuana will make the quitting process easier.
We all know that people who smoke tend to hang out with people who smoke. Non-smokers hang out with non smokers. If you want to quit smoking pot, and all of your friend still smoke, it almost feels like you’re not just quitting marijuana, you are also leaving your friendships behind. Don’t worry. That isn’t always the case. What I found, real friendships that go beyond marijuana are maintained. While the friendships that are based solely on smoking dope may not be as strong once you quit.
When you tell your friends that you quit, you will quickly learn who your close friends are. The people that care about you will support you in your goal, even if they tease you about it. Some of the people that smoke will try to discourage you from quitting. They may even try to sabotage your goal. They do this because the more people that they know that smoke pot, the more comfortable they feel with their own problem. One of the reasons that I started smoking weed was because it was an easy way to make friends with people. There is an instant bond that is created when you smoke with someone. Now that I’ve quit, I am more social and have no issues meeting people. One thing I have found is that it is very difficult to hang around my friends that still smoke marijuana when they are high. We all make our own decisions. I have no problem with my friend who smoke weed, but that when they are high and I am not, we are on different levels.
Here are some tips to help you manage your friends and relationships.
If you are in a relationship, explain to your partner that you will need both support and space for a while. Plan for all of the extra time you’ll have it in the first couple of weeks when you quit smoking, particularly if you don’t plan to hang out with your friends who smoke. Find something to fill in the time. If you do not, you’ll become bored and marijuana will be that much more tempting to you. If you are worried that you will succumb to temptation, don’t put yourself around marijuana smokers. It doesn’t mean you’re ending the friendship forever, but just not exposing yourself to risk.
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Workout at the gym and hit the sauna….working out seems to help me I’m on day 4 it’s tough but not that tough.
Hello, my name is Vanessa and my problems isnt personally being addicted to marijuana but my boyfriend is. He has been smoking for about 11 years and right now he is on probation and he has this little routine of stopping for two weeks just to clean out his system in case he is sent for a drug test when he checks in but as soon as that day comes and he checks in hes right back to smoking. the biggest issue we have on that is it annoys and irritates me so much that he tries to hide the fact that he still smoking. Just a few days ago he had to check in and was drug tested then a few days after that he was called for a drug test for work well I guess that finally scared him into realizing that his risk taking is finally giving up on him so he decided he was gona try and stop for the remaining time hes on probation but now I dont know who I have living in my house. From where he is fiending for it he is literally and ass to everyone, always n a bad mood and cant sit still, now that I know is what is to be expected but the one thing that is really bothering and starting to scare me is that he can not sleep. Is this another or a common symptom of trying to quit and if so what can he do to help he get some sleep?
I don’t know what to say. I can barely type I am so stoned but I have been talking about getting off of this !@!#stuff for a very long time. My husband and I have been smoking together for 22 years and I don’t know if we can quit. I am ready I think. But he is not in the same mood as I am when it comes to quitting. I am looking for help anywhere that I can get it. Can I quit without him quitting? Or am I just kidding myself? Should I even make him quit? I wont leave him that is for sure we have been together through everything so I know he loves me. I am ready to quit though I think that is why I am here.
i am not able to leave it at aalll
i want to smoke them all the timei wake wid dem, shower wid, breakfast is made while smoking it, den too tired,i roll up another one and go to bed.. and den i bam bam bam i a=wake up next morning…’
dis goes on and on
for 13 and a half year i m living like dis..
pls tell me how can i quit marijuana???????????????????????
due to marijuana , i think i started doing lsd,,is it??
I am addicted to Marihuana. Thats the morning thought today, after a weekend of self-destruction with my friends its incredible that until now , I have the balls and the courage to accept: I am addicted. At first I thought of it as something positive to smoke, “People who dont smoke dont understand” but the commotion in my head this morning testifies with a miliion things to do but all but one seems to beat all others: smoke a joint. Thankfully I ran out, yes the morning was rough but if I keep holding this path I am coming to learn that it runs in circles, and starts where it finishes: Joint after Joint. It feels good to write and is the first time I write in something like this but pretty much the last couple weeks of my life have been crazy and I have been resorting to Marihuana daily unplanningly to escape the daily grind of life, and I have comed to this conclusion various times but never had the complete gut felling because I thought I could control or find a positive aspect to keep doing it, After 1 year of having the Idea in my head that it is time to quit 100%, not just weekends, when somebody rolls one out or “the mood is right”, The time has come for real. I love smoking weed but I love more life and everything it has to offer, and the cost of smoking weed is not something I am going to accept, I guess if I was bold enough to get myself in this pickle I’ll just have to be twice as bold to get out. I deeply thank the person who created this area to help people quit an addiction, addictions are destructive and they destroy people, If your reading this looking for guidance like I am, The power to stop lies in between all of us… you just have to excersice it everyday!
Okay so i feel silly for having to go on a website to try and cut back from smoking, but i really do have to make changes and i don’t know what mental block I have that i can’t. I’m going to be graduating next year and to get into the real world you need to pass drug tests >_<. I smoke for anxiety and it helps me out. It doesn't set me back in anyway and i don't know how to handle all the anxiety and bull crap of the world without smoking. I know many of you can relate and so here i am asking for advice.
When I met my husband he told me he used to smoke weed. I quit smoking weed about 15 years ago. When we were engaged I caught a whiff of something but didn’t know what it was. I played detective and found out he had started back smoking secretly (He heard me tell his parents I would leave if he did drugs). Little did naive little me know. Once he got busted he asked me if I wanted to some and at first I said no but then tried it later. Now I’ve been smoking most everyday for the past 10 months. I am currently in graduate school getting my masters in a specific health field and my grades have suffered to wear I’m on thin ice in my program. He tells me to quit but he still smokes or he lives his oney laying around, or he’ll smoke in the room. When I’m by myself I don’t smoke but once my husband is around and I smell it on him I end up smoking. I’m down to smoking once a day but I absolutely hate that it’s around and sometimes wish he would leave or better yet stop smoking himself but that’s not going to happen I’m afraid. He’s bipolar and says it helps him to focus on one thing and quiets the voices in his head. He also takes his meds on a regular basis. I’m just at the point where I want him to leave because what I’ve worked for for the last 6 years is starting to go down the tube and I don’t want to give that up. Someone please give me advice if you’ve been through this.
Wow Haha I’ve been smoking pot for months yeah I know not a long time compared to others but my gf has found out that I smoke and sheasked my to stop its been a week now n I’ve been having dreams of me smoking. I’m at home bored and I force myself to stay home cause I live around pot smokers I want to quit for three reasons my gf my future job as a boarder patrol and health do you got any tips that will help?
Im 21 years old been smoking pot constantly for 5-6 years meow, my girlfriend of 3 years is breaking up with me over it and I dont really know what to do as I know in good time I plan on quitting as I am starting to go further into my schooling and actually starting to care and I fully know that I can’t smoke pot and be the person or have the Career that I want, problem is I don’t know how to make her realize that I do want to quit that I do plan on quitting and that I am motivated to do all these things. She has trust issues clearly but its tearing me apart as I refuse to smoke pot around her and I only really smoke weed when I am done studying and I am done work and I am done doing anything that requires me to be repsonsible. I don’t go out to much as I have health conditions that make me unable to drink like the rest of the people I know, but yet she makes me feel like that bad guy because I only smoke pot at night even though it doesnt affect her, but she thinks I am on a path of destruction, I really don’t know what to do with her as she is the love of my life and we do plan on having a life together, but she just isnt willing to wait and see if I actually do wanna quit, but I just don’t feel ready to quit at this exact point in my life, I do wanna quit and I have slown down but to someone who doesnt smoke weed and doesnt bother to educate herself on it, its impossible to convince her. Anyone got any tips on how to deal with Irrational women with to many emotions?? I kid, thats all of them, anyone know what I should say or do to make her see I am serious about this matter.
i tank God dat after 15 yrs i’ve quite. Due i’v been trying 2 quite but when i fall sick i used dat opportunity 2 stop
Man, this should have a facebook thumbs up button so it could be posted on people’s fb!
Thank you for posting this. I may use this as a resource for my clients. Being around friends who smoke is a common reason that clients struggle with abstinence. I also find that many don’t think that smoking marijuana can become an issue. This drug has some of the highest defensiveness out of all that I have worked with.
Let me know if there are specific resources or questions you would like assistance with!
I’m 24, smoked weed for like 8 years, had a GF for over 3 years, even had a kid with her. And I’m pretty sure the biggest reason we split up was because of my smoking habit.
After we got comfortable living together and doing our own things around the house, I started smoking all the time, and it eventually became my priority. After we would put our kid to sleep, it was time to light-up. She would smoke with me sometimes, but a lot of the times, I was high and she was sober. My stoner friend was always over at our house too. Any chance we had, we ditched my GF to go outside and have our lengthy smoke sessions. That lifestyle didn’t last more than a year before it took a dump in our relationship.
Weed numbs more than just ur brain.
Yeah – A lot of relationships suffer when being stoned affects your ever day function.
Have you quit now?
hello there i am a former heavy weed smoker
at the time i was getting free green and it drew me further into the game of puffing..after smoking a year i would smoke just about anything also dipping peoples stash for my personal use as i could get it but couldnt afford to buy it 
i got into trouble with a few drug dealers and ended up only coming out when so called friends 
checked that streets where clear and i could get around..by the second or third year i was snoking weed to bring me down off cocaine.. i had a job and found it hard to get out of bed without a joint to motivate me to get me up and out..not all people wo;; be affected by these things but the main things are health friends and your own personal opinon of the main person(not your dealers) it is you and the money you pour in to there flash cars and lifestyles you help and provide by funding them… 
it took me ages to get real with myself and the effects of weed is clear and has made me paranoid violent and a person who is very unsure of himself… it drove my wife away and really made a unpleasent person to be around for my family.. i was a lost soul and all i ever did was turn to weed instead of reading or talking to some one getting the most poetent weed was the most important thing..things changed in how i thought i was a leader and not a sheep like the rest? until i was sat down in a room with a number of smokers all with emoational bagage and i realised this is my problem my persoanl issues are the thing i mask and hide giving up coke was hard and took 6years but weed took nearly 3 times as long i made the choice as at thirty now i must put my health and family first and never turrn back to being that sheep
it is hard to give up weed and i did for nearly sixteen years
i stared with friends then started using daily really from looking cool or being a laughing stock of dealers really using me as there rabbit
to pick up decent gree
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