One of the most difficult things someone who quits marijuana goes through is how friends and friendships change with people who still smoke weed. As someone who has quit marijuana, I know the difficulty of this situation and have some advice. Knowing how to manage your relationships when you first quit marijuana will make the quitting process easier.
We all know that people who smoke tend to hang out with people who smoke. Non-smokers hang out with non smokers. If you want to quit smoking pot, and all of your friend still smoke, it almost feels like you’re not just quitting marijuana, you are also leaving your friendships behind. Don’t worry. That isn’t always the case. What I found, real friendships that go beyond marijuana are maintained. While the friendships that are based solely on smoking dope may not be as strong once you quit.
When you tell your friends that you quit, you will quickly learn who your close friends are. The people that care about you will support you in your goal, even if they tease you about it. Some of the people that smoke will try to discourage you from quitting. They may even try to sabotage your goal. They do this because the more people that they know that smoke pot, the more comfortable they feel with their own problem. One of the reasons that I started smoking weed was because it was an easy way to make friends with people. There is an instant bond that is created when you smoke with someone. Now that I’ve quit, I am more social and have no issues meeting people. One thing I have found is that it is very difficult to hang around my friends that still smoke marijuana when they are high. We all make our own decisions. I have no problem with my friend who smoke weed, but that when they are high and I am not, we are on different levels.
Here are some tips to help you manage your friends and relationships.
If you are in a relationship, explain to your partner that you will need both support and space for a while. Plan for all of the extra time you’ll have it in the first couple of weeks when you quit smoking, particularly if you don’t plan to hang out with your friends who smoke. Find something to fill in the time. If you do not, you’ll become bored and marijuana will be that much more tempting to you. If you are worried that you will succumb to temptation, don’t put yourself around marijuana smokers. It doesn’t mean you’re ending the friendship forever, but just not exposing yourself to risk.
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Thanks a lot for those tips. they’re very helpful.
I was a weed smoker ( at least 5g a day, high almost constantly, whenever it is possible) for seven years and quit smoking (quit everything actually, even tobacco and alcohol) a mounth ago, while I was out of the country, away from everything, on holiday.
Now that I’m back and confronted with everyday life it becomes much more difficult. Especially when I’m hanging out with my friends. They’re really good people I mean all of them are supportive, no jokes, a lot of encouragements….. But still, we hang out almost everyday and now that I quit, I’m getting bored because I realize that smoking is actually doing something and it is what we used to do like every night!!… nothing!… it’s sooo sad that it pisses me off!! (really! I cried out of nervous breakdown once when I got home:)) Above all we can’t even understand each other when they’re high, so almost no conversation!
I have to find something to replace pot when I’m with friends and stop getting soo bored and pissed off. Do you have any advice? What do you do when you’re with smoking friends?
Hello Mel,
I am wanting to quit as well, so cut down to start with. But if there’s one thing that reminds me why I want to quit is remembering all the times my friends and I would hang out and… laugh at the cat! Can you believe it? A room full of grown-ups who can’t focus on one interesting thing to talk about, so they laugh at what the cat is doing.
So what do you do if you’re in a room full of stoners who are laughing at a cat? You can be the sober one who can focus and direct conversation. People who are high do like to talk, it’s just hard because they can’t concentrate. So maybe you can remind them what they were talking about when they forget.
Most of all, remember that variety is the spice of life. You may want to hang out with other people as well, people who don’t smoke.
Don’t feel as if you’re ditching your friends. If you quit smoking, it’s because you wanted to broaden your horizons. It’s perfectly normal to want to do different things! Because smoking everyday gets pretty repetitive.
I hope that helps.
Maria
you have to change up, people, places and things. You’ll know what to do. You’re right when you say that you’re getting bored. Maybe you’ll rediscover the things you used to do before you got high everyday.
How do you escape this drug-induced reality where you think you have to smoke weed to have fun or be happy? Especially if you’re trying to keep the same friends. They always smoke around me, and I still feel an itch in my lungs whenever I smell it. For some reason I feel like it will make me feel better when the reality is it won’t, you don’t need it, It just numbs you
Man, just thinking about this shit makes me want to smoke a joint.
Well I’m one of the many that wake up on Monday morning and throw everything out and say this is the end. I found that I can only make it to Wednesday before one of the boys comes by and gets me high. I’m glad that you have this website and I’m looking forward to it helping me quit. I’m a 38 year old man that started smoking at the age of 12 1/2. Thats 26 years for those to stoned to count. I smoked in Jr. High to get away from family problems that grew to even more smoking in High School. Don’t get me worng, I have a great career and I’m very productive “when I’m not high”…. I see the weed holding me back from a lot of social event and even relationships. The new Marijuana culture that has sprong up over the last 10 years is so different then back in the 80′s. Weed these days is so strong it will put you out like a hit of Herion…. for reals… I like how Mel discribed that MJ plays an addictive roll differenty in different people. Such as myself, I can drink alcohol with the best of them but I don’t need to have a drink every day and I see no reason to keep it here at my house. However marijuana is a whole different story for me. Like Mel said and he hit it right on the head in a different artical that read “this will be my last bad so I’m going to BLAZE right through it till its gone.” This is exaclty what I’m going through too. I look forward to hearing from anyone on this site and I’m wising myself and others the best of luck quiting this time.
ive been smoking pot jus about everyday since i started win i was 14 now im jus about 30 and have tried quiting for the past 3 years everytime i get a bag i tell myself its the last. win i get a day without smoking i get hot cold at the same time and become a monster cant sleep at all/fall or even staying asleep jus dosent happen easily, or eating the other is my friends all smoke pot daily i would have to ditch them cause im not strong enough to stay off if im around it cause they b hitn me up telln me they got a bag of the sticky green on the other hand the problem is its been a part of me so long its my way of life. ive had enough allready and want to stop at any cost my buddy gave me some chlorediazepoxide to calm my nerves from the withdrawls to take the edge off and so far withdrals are tollerable i still want to smoke but my will is hopefully stronger this time im 1 1/2 days sober i will write more in a few days for my update.
i wanna quit and i think this website just helped me.
Wow, I was gonna quit after this bag but then a friend called wanting me to get her some as usual. Now I’m supposed to go get her and me some tomorrow am. I just ran across this site by accident and have had a lot of what I’ve read hit me like a ton of bricks. I need to quit this shit before I loose my job and professional license. I can’t even get a relationship started with the opposite sex b/c they don’t smoke and they think i’m just a stoner. And that’s exactly what i am. I can’t even go to work straight anymore. I’m disgusted with myself. WoW
am glad i found this site.37 been smoking weed since i was 18.its time to quite.am not the person am suppose to be if that makes since. its hard because i know i have to change my lifestyle and my relationship weed has always been abig part of my life and relationship
ive lost good jobs because i could not pass drug test time for a change.long overdue
Recently I have been thinking about quitting smoking, but my partner is a heavy pot smoker and i find it really really hard to not smoke wen he does. I have even began smoking more since meeting him. I smoke weed on a regular basis, every night after my commitments and when I have the day off I generally sit around and just smoke weed, throwing all my plans out the window. This irritates me every time, yet it does not stop me.
I recently went away for 9 days and the whole time I did not smoke a joint and did not crave smoking either. This makes me feel I am not dependant, however when ever I try to stop at home it never last longer than a day. I am aware that the reason I did not feel the need to smoke is because I was not surrounded by any smoke at all.
So if I know I dont need to smoke and it doesnt bother me when Im not arround it, how come I cant muster up the motivation to say no when I back home in my reality.
Some advice would be much appreciated. xxxx
I started smoking so I could kick opiates. Now I have this other habit and I have all of those aforementioned symptoms. But things aren’t as dull now. It will pass.
well so far ive been reading what u have posted an im really understanding EXACTLY what your talking about!omg its crazy because ive tried soooo many times its almost pointless now and im n a relationship and she doesnt know i still smoke thats how bad it is. im ready to stop an really dont have ANY support because i cant tell my girlfriend and my friends dont see the reasons why i want to stop smoking so they tempt me with “upgraded marijuana” and i always fall for it.its at the point i dont even buy it anymore because someone will come by with sum…im so ready to stop ive been smoking since i was 17 an im 27 now im just ready to see how life really is without it.
please know that MARAJANA, will not go away unless you put it away just like bad thoughts, MARAJUANA keeps comming back. how in the world do you get rid of somthing so unimportant to you as a bad thought comes and goes so does MARAJANA.SO THEN IF YOU HAVE A MILLION DOLLARS AND SPEND ALL OF THE MILLION DOLLARS, THEN THE MILLION DOLLARS IS GONE.BAD THOUGHTS WILL CONTINUE IF YOU ALLOW THEM TO, THINK OF THOSE THINGS THAT ARE GOOD AND PURE AND THOSE BAD THOUGHTS WILL GO AWAY.
EVENUALLY!
AS FOR MARAJANA… THINK ABOUT it DO YOU REALLY WANT GO LET THE STUFF GO? AFTER ALL IT PLEASES YOU!
BUT SO DOES A “CHOCOLATE BAR”. LETTING GO IS YOUR KEY, TO LETTING MARAJANA FLEE FROM YOUR EXSISTENCE. REMEMBER THIS… KEEP YOU FRIENDS CLOSE… BUT YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER… ANYTHING THAT BEHOLDS TO YOU UNWANTINGLY IS YOUR ENEMY. IS MARAJANA WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU WANT IT TO BE?
please know that MARAJANA, will not go away unless you put it away just like bad thoughts, MARAJUANA keeps comming back. how in the world do you get rid of somthing so unimportant to you as a bad thought comes and goes so does MARAJANA.SO THEN IF YOU HAVE A MILLION DOLLARS AND SPEND ALL OF THE MILLION DOLLARS, THEN THE MILLION DOLLARS IS GONE. THINK OF THOSE THINGS THAT ARE GOOD AND PURE AND THOSE BAD THOUGHTS WILL GO AWAY.
EVENUALLY!
AS FOR MARAJANA… THINK ABOUT it DO YOU REALLY WANT GO LET THE STUFF GO? AFTER ALL IT PLEASES YOU!
BUT SO DOES A “CHOCOLATE BAR”. LETTING GO IS YOUR KEY, TO LETTING MARAJANA FLEE FROM YOUR EXSISTENCE. REMEMBER THIS… KEEP YOU FRIENDS CLOSE… BUT YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER… IS MARAJANA WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU WANT IT TO BE?
please know that MARAJANA, will not go away unless you put it away just like bad thoughts, MARAJUANA keeps comming back. MARAJANA.SO THEN IF YOU HAVE A MILLION DOLLARS AND SPEND ALL OF THE MILLION DOLLARS, THEN THE MILLION DOLLARS IS GONE. THINK OF THOSE THINGS THAT ARE EVENUALLY!
AS FOR MARAJANA… THINK ABOUT it DO YOU REALLY WANT GO LET THE STUFF GO? AFTER ALL IT PLEASES YOU!
BUT SO DOES A “CHOCOLATE BAR”. LETTING GO IS YOUR KEY, TO LETTING MARAJANA FLEE FROM YOUR EXSISTENCE. REMEMBER THIS… KEEP YOU FRIENDS CLOSE… BUT YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER… IS MARAJANA WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU WANT IT TO BE?
hey there, I have a huge desire to quit, and I know I am WAY more productive when I’m sober. My job is around people all the time and when I’m working, I’m sober, but the first thing I do as soon as I am alone or with friends is smoke. I cancel plans, I avoid social settings, I turn down sex!
When in a post, someone mentioned going back to what they did before smoking weed. I wish I could remember what I was doing when I was 13 haha So Bummpers, I fee l ya. Every person I have ever befriended smokes weed.
Now I just stumbled upon this thread, and I don’t know if I’ll ever see it again, or if anyone will see this post, but I think I’ll consider this evening as milestone in my life.
It is time for me to find a new hobby.
Advice I’ve heard, incase anyone is lookin’ for point form quick notes
-throw out all your shit…all ur pipes, papes, bongs, grinders, tweezers, etc… better yet, give it to your friends as an offering for their support.
-instead of smokin’ weed, remind yourself that you can be doing something else. maybe relaxing, or enriching yourself.
-ask people what they do in their spare time. maybe you will share a common interest. (its much easier to be social when not baked haha)
anything else is up to one’s self…make sure tho, that you smoke a big Doobie to celebrate parting with natures greatest gift to man. ……
Someone was right up there when they said that weed makes it easy to be social with other smokers because its an instant connection/relating idea. I started smoking when I was 8 with my brother then at the age of 13 I introduced weed to all my friends. Now that I’m 23 and have stopped smoking I actually truly feel that I have lost all my friends because I choose to stop smoking but the circle of friends that continue to smoke still talk and text each other but stopped communicating with me. My pArents fully support me not to smoke and are happy to see me off drugs but man i am really lonely that I have np one my age to talk to. What do I do?
So, for some reason, I had a little voice in the back of my head tell me to quit smoking weed, ironically, yesterday, on 420…
This is probably the hardest thing I have ever been through, and It’s only my first day “not” smoking. I feel like the cold turkey route is just a recipe for relapse, and like any other drug, progressive steps need to be taken to truly, effectively, stop smoking. So as I sit here, contemplating buying a half gram just to get my mind at east, I wonder. Am I really quitting? Or am I just so fucked up that my mind is throwing random thoughts at me to get me to go get baked.
I’ve smoked daily for the past 5 years. Not as long as other people, but it used to help me creatively, stressfully, and emotionally. But now I feel like I use it as a part of my daily regimen, like waking up and brushing my teeth, or eating breakfast. It does help my appetite, which varies due to my stress levels. So sometimes I’m forced to spark up just so I can eat something. It’s sad really. In one hand, I feel like I’m fine and I’m just spazzing out and every things not that bad, I’m doing well in school, I’m about to graduate at the top of my class, and I’ve (basically) turned my life of troublemaking around. But yet, I still feel the need to quit.
I hope the rest of you understand what I’m saying, if I’m saying anything at all worth reading. I love weed, but I need to learn to live without it. I still believe it should be legalized, but like anything else, it should be enjoyed in moderation. I’m just trying to get my head on straight after a 5 year daze.
I am a senior in college, graduating next month from a great school. Moving in last summer I had a flatmate who is a marine vet (and had just gotten accepted into a more prestigious university) – anyways, a few words of encouragement and consistent pessimism towards pot from him was all it took to help me quit cold turkey for the entire summer! I forgot to mention the four other flatmates who were consistently baked as I had been since the end of high school. After summer I fell back into the mix of midterms and tests, college at its absolute best, and have turned it into a blissful sedated grind (I have gotten a 4.0 multiple quarters stoned out of my mind)…. and that is where I am typing from. Next month, graduating opens the doors to the real world, with paying jobs and opportunity up the yin-yang…so as I am smoking the best weed so cal has to offer – it is time to give it up. I feel that seeking helpful advice and consolation in a close friend(s) or even a very new friend you respect, or family member [or doctor as mentioned in a separate article] is necessary, even though asking for help is difficult for me. I have started to smoke less, and less frequently. Patiently, calmly. “We cannot grow unless we allow ourselves to become different from what we were yesterday.”" This is the end, beautiful friend, this is the end.”
My partner and I have just quit smoking weed after cutting down. We are doing ok, as far as cravings are going.
The only things that’re absolutely doing my head in is 1) I am so bored on weekends and after my partner goes to work (we both do shift work), and 2) I’m not getting tired. I go to bed n stare at the ceiling, doing doughnuts in my head.
Everyone else I’ve read has said to exercise, but I have rsi in both arms, and scoliosis in my back which has stuffed my legs. I can’t risk stuffing myself up more, as this is why I started smoking so chronicly.
On that note, any ideas on a weed substitute for a pain killer. Since we stopped, 6 days ago, all the aches have started to come back, and I’m now just waiting for the day my leg collapses at the drop of the hat, or i can’t do my bra up or turn the key in the front door…
Any ideas? It’ll be the 3rd time in the last 12 months if it does, and I don’t know if I can deal with again.
My boyfriend is addicted to weed. He can’t go half a day with out smoking and it is killing our relationship. He is a terrible partner while high, which is all the time. We can’t have sex, he isn’t interested. We can’t talk, he cant even finish a sentence. We can’t hang out because I get so mad at him for being so stoned. I know I can’t make him change, but how do I get him to see that he has a problem? He focuses on weed all the time. He has been fired from two jobs this year because of rushing through work to get home to smoke weed. He ruined his relationship with my family because he had to take weed to their home and offered it my younger brother. So, how do I get him to see that he is addicted and that its negatively impacting his life?
Thanks. I have been checking out the site for a couple of hours now. I have been smoking for about seven or eight years since sophomore year of high school, and since then i’ve spent at least $15-20K on marijuana. I think thats what makes me sad the most is that now my fiancee and i are getting ready to move to los angeles and i’m kicking myself over how badly i could use all of that money or what else i could have put it towards. none of that money was stolen, it was all paychecks, allowances, and gifts and i simply chose to put it towards the best weed i could find.
Before i started smoking I used to be very good at saving money, I always put a portion of each paycheck or any money in my savings account… once i started smoking, i started justifying all expenses that i put towards it. I even sold my coin collection, a guitar, and some gold jewelry to buy pot!
Now that I am trying to quit, i am having a hard time being around my friends. One minute i want to yell at them for wasting their time and money on marijuana, the next i want to join them and encourage them to smoke even more. In the past few months i have spent less than $100 total on weed- but i still feel bad knowing that every hit now costs something like one to two dollars with the way prices are going these days.
I want to keep all of my friends and business partners… they’re all great people and i love them. But its a problem because my entire band that i play with and am trying to make a career out of playing music with is high constantly and always taking breaks to smoke weed and/or cigarettes. Its really annoying. And i am a founding partner in two other companies where my other partners are honestly very productive people, but are high all the time as well.
It is very tempting to smoke, seeing how productive these people still are when they are high. I also am able to be productive when I am stoned, i just produce more slowly. I feel like I also am a bit more awkward when I’m stoned and a bit less articulate… which is a problem considering that I need to do lots of PR work.
Has anyone else managed to keep their close friends and associates who smoke after quitting marijuana? Are you able to feel comfortable around them when they are smoking or do you ask them not to smoke around you?
Thanks
Veay good website
luciana
this shit hard 2 stop
Hey fellow tokers..
I guess some of you have had similar experiences to those i have had in the last couple of days. here goes.
Firstly i smoke every day, (apart from today.) I ‘think’ i have a decent mate that i see wuite alot. tday i tried scoring for us both and he has been constantly calling me and asking if ive found bud. to be honest, its driving me crazy and this same kid is always complaining that he never gets out and all the rest of that crap. I cant really do much more for him, i play in a band and only yesterday i offered him to come out (an attempt to cheer him up and get him to meet some new people) and all day he was well up for it, told me to call his bird and arrange it wiht her because he was busy working. so half hour before im leaving he turns around and sais hes tired… same old story every day of his life.. what a boring sod. I think im going to keep reminding myself of how he is always moaning and bored but cant help himself to save his life… i dont want to be like that guys so today ive decided to stop smoking all together… if your mates start pestering you for bud and you only see them to toke….. i suggest you talk to them and find out what it is they really want from you… im a bit tired with this so bye bye weed, bring on the gym, cycling and getting fit…… to be honest… its just as good!
No One posted in a while, so I guess I’m the next story. Ok I’m also addicted I feel. Been smoking for about the last 15 years 37. Same story, feel like quitting, tell myself its the last one happy as hell telling myself ” Yeah boy! this is it, I’m gonna just quit, after this one.at least for a while, some months or years until I get over real issues and can save a lot more money. I convince myself that each and everytime then when its gone I have to get that next last bag to help with this new lonely feeling, stress, the reality of all the issues I have to work on. It makes it all feel better once i have that blunt.Yeah dutchess or cigars are the preferred choice too. Anyway yeah, I noticed that I think I have a problem that I created trying to solve another..It isnt working like It used too. 15 years ago their was a lot less responsibilities. Can’t carry the same behaviors then now..I realize its not working and this is the first time I manifested it in writing and realizing I’m being honest with this instead of covering it up and justifying it….Yeah, it got me feeling kinda good! Now i wanna light one up, but I ran out…I be lookin for roaches like crack heads for pipes or crumbs..Its like green crack to me
Wow I think it is just like that. I’m on green crack yall. I tricked myself by convincing myself that it was ok to indulge in it like I do. Over indulgence, Now its like a Monster, The black spider Man Suite “Venom”. I feel like its on me. The Weed is Venom to me. Remember in the movie how Peter acted once he had Venom, Nonchalant, in control(temporary), center of the party, etc..But then it took over and wanted to be the I am or Master of Parker, instead of Spiderman(Himself). He didnt want to leave it alone, he was dependent on venom for a while, like MJ. if it was real life Spidey probably would of been took over by venom for years like me on MJ. Well I cant even afford to purchase anynow, sorta like rock bottom, depressed because I want all that I spent back, and plus you don’t get the time back. I wanna smoke to that thought too.. 
Thats venom again..Im thinking of pawning some things to get a few dollars and of course purchase MJ. and get stoned then be even more worst off..So need another to feel better..Friends?? Only gotta those that smoke also..unless they facebook friends that I know that i never hang with.Weed is my best friend. I always want her around, she’s there for me but shes getting so expensive, I wanna break up with her but don’t know how..yeah its like that… 
I have been smoking weed every day for the past 25 years. It seems the only people I hung out with smoke weed. It’s cost me a marriage and countless other relationships along the way. I am 45 now and trying to change my life. Whenever I see old friends they always want to start me up again. The only way to stop is to not hang with them. It’s only been a week now but I see better things on the horizon. Good luck to everyone out here. I know I need it and hope to find a MA meeting soon.
I am married to a pot user. I have been trying to get him to quit for me and our 2 boys, he has smoke since he was 15 years old and has told me to my face that I am not a good enough reason for him to quit. I do not want my sons around this lifestyle, I am on the verge of leaving my husband because pot has ruined our marriage. He has tried several times to quit but relapses within 2 weeks, his problem is his whole family smokes pot and all his friends, I know he is really worried about loosing everyone, but he doesnt worry about loosing his wife or his kids. I have given him his goal to quit. He has to quit by Sept 28 (our anniversary) or I will take the kids and leave. I am so tired of struggling to live so he can feed his addiction. And I am a believer that he has a mental addiction, he has done it so long that when he has gone thru anxiety of not getting any and cant get any he gets abusive and takes his anxiety out on me and our boys. I need help and advice before I completely give up on him a leave.
…quitting smoking weed is no laughing matter,as a matter of fact i wish i could turn back the handz of time 2 the day i started smokin dope.seeing myself in a condition i cant resist really pisses me off but i hope 2 get over smokin soon…
I can so relate to all the stories here. There is nothing else in my life that so consumes me. I’m a productive person but I can’t go without my smoke. I want to quit. I tried AA meetings for a while. It worked at first. I felt supported in my pursuit of quitting. But then after 10 months of not smoking I had a puff. That’s all it took.
I hope you all can give me some good advice.
g
many people find cannabis fun in the short term to relax and get away from their problems but even if you smoke 50 joints your problems arent going to go away…….do you really want to spend your life being paranoid and associating with criminals to get your weed because i know i dont….ive been smoking it everyday for about 3 years and yes it was good at first to relax but it doesnt relax me anymore i just feel on edge constantly…….think of it like a grey cloud looming over you everyday while smoking it with negative thoughts etc .When you do stop smoking it that grey cloud will gradually disappear leaving you feel positive and more intouch with your mind…..most of all think of the money you would safe……WAS IT WORTH IT?
I am a 46 yo woman, who has been smoking since I was 15. I am able to “quit” every now and then; for months at a time in some cases, but I always pick it back up. I come from a family of addicts (cigarette smokers, drinkers, pot smokers), and it’s very difficult to stop. I think the thing that I fear most is that once I stop, my husband and I won’t have anything in common to keep our marriage together. That’s the scariest thing to me! When I AM able to quit for a while, I think I fall back in to it because it’s available (as my hubby still smokes, too), and it’s familiar (I KNOW how I react with this, and what it will do for me). What I forget at those times is just that. HOW I will react, and WHAT it will do for me. When I’m smoking, I feel muzzy-headed in the morning. Tired to get it going completely. Used to be I couldn’t smoke first thing in the morning, because I knew I wouldn’t be able to function properly afterward. Now I find it’s one of the first things I look forward to doing. This is going to be tough, but my hubby says he is going to quit with me this time. That should be a HUGE help. WISH US LUCK!!!
How do you quit smoking when your spouse of 28 yrs still does?
I hear you all. Yet it seems no matter what I do I can’t shake i t off. I stopped for about a month when I got married, then started again. going through roughly an once a month. I just cant seem to find a way. Even when I cold turkey, after a few days, I end up calling a buddy and I go get some, or I go to a party, get high, then I buy again. And since I dont like to pay too much, I always buy one once at a time… First thing I know, I’m spending self employed monday morning smoking in front of my computer, pretending to work. I really feel its holding me back from my career. I have so many ideas in different fields that never exit my mind simply because I can’t concentrate long enough. So I am stuck playing defense attorney and not being able to ripe a dime from it because i’m too soft instead of trying to actualy design something and chase my dreams. I think about my death all the time. No kiling myself of course, that would be wrong, but simply to the fact of being dead. Being not there. I tell you, suicide has got to be the ultimate form of procrastination. You get to do it… never! The pot has got to go, but I cant find how. I keep lying to myself : “you can have some, you’ve worked hard today (6 hours… WTF you gotta be kidding me). I got so lazy, and fat. damn.
And I still feel like i’m gonna go smoke another one…
Hell, is an eternal repetition of the same tragedy.
Well i guess i will add to this wall thread due to the fact that i also feel like i am addicted to weed. Im a 23 year old male, athletic, B student, studying history in college. I recently started smoking about 3 years ago due to the fact that all of my close friends smoked. One day i figured i would give it a try. After a few months of doing it once a month or so i decided, “hey, why not. Ill smoke. As long as im not going out of my way to buy it, it will never turn into an addiction.” Well 3 years later, it has. I began buying it in very small amounts or rarely at all. It eventually increased to me smoking roughly 5-6 times a day. I have recently had surgery on my right knee due to a torn ACL and a meniscus tear and since i have not been working, driving, or doing anything of that nature, my smoking has gotten totally out of hand. I think about it every single day. Last time i smoked was last night and just to go through this day is a miracle to me without smoking. I have used every excuse in the book such as, “i get more done when im high”=false, “my classes are so boring that i cant bear to go to them without smoking first”=true lol but i havnt learned anything this semester. I smoke roughly every time i got into my car to drive, due to the fact that it became a habit to me. But anyway, i have noticed lately that it has affected my short term memory durastically and has altered my personality. I was class clown of my grade and graduated in 2006. I am not as outgoing as i used to be and i almost feel awkward meeting new people or being put into situations i would have been fine with in the past. I have come to think that i do not know how i went through life everyday in the past without smoking. Weed makes you feel as though you need it to have a good time and that smoking it will only make every experience better. Although i want to believe it because i love smoking so much, its simply not true. I really want to quit cold turkey but i do realize that it is my hardest way out of this situation. I guess due to the fact of not being able to work or make any money will in turn help me quit because i will not have the money to buy any weed. In my opinion, smoking weed is not an addiction. It is a hobby that becomes part of your everyday life. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and i still smoked after every gym session. But today is the day that i have decided to quit. The biggest reason why is not having the money to buy it, but deep down inside, i have been telling myself that i have a problem and i need to fix it. Today is the day i am going to fix it. If anyone has any advice they could give me or anything i would greatly appreciate it.
PS: I have not been hungry once all day today (which i guess is normal), and i am not in the mood to do anything…Im hoping that i can sleep tonight but i am doubtful. I prob could have picked a better time to quit, but i guess there is no “right” time to quit. You just have to man up and do it
I am 22 years old and have been smoking pot since I was 18. I think the main reason I started smoking was to help me cope with some of the symptoms of my mental illness, and also to help me handle the extreme stress I was going through at the time. I have bipolar disorder and major depressive disorder, both of which can potentially exacerbated by heavy marijuana use. I smoked so heavily in 2009 (before medications) that it totally f*cked my brain chemistry and I ended up in the hospital after a suicide attempt. While there were many contributing factors to this, I know that it never would have come to that if it weren’t for me smoking so much to run away from my problems.
I really wish I didn’t have to quit, but I see no other option. I recently admitted to myself that I have an addictive personality and I can’t continue on like this. I have been justifying the pot smoking for so long (seasonal depression, moving, unemployment, boredom, stress, pain, friends, etc.) that I can’t remember how I used to handle situations without it. I even spent many months completely sober after my suicide attempt and faced my problems. I overcame so much, I faced my past and my parents, developed many useful coping mechanisms and tools, and now I look at myself and feel like I undid it all. All of that hard work and I am just as emotionally reliant on it as I was then. I feel so fragile and vulnerable and the thought of not having it as a crutch terrifies me. I’ve done this before and remember how hard it was.
I worry that I don’t have the stability in my life to actually quit just yet, but then I just call myself out on making up bullsh!t excuses for delaying quitting. Sometimes I think that I need to quit in order to gain the very stability that I seek. My doctor recommended me to quit smoking because it interferes with my medications. I hate it because he’s right… how can I possibly be in tune with my emotions or give my brain chemistry a chance to be balanced when I am inhaling mind-altering chemicals?
I know I have to do this but I feel like I am waiting for a cue. I will be leaving to see family at the end of the month so I should probably get on it if I want to be somewhat sane when the time rolls around. Withdrawals are the absolute worst and all three of my roommates smoke all the time. I am going to start planning other things to do to get out of the house when I can’t take it anymore. It’s going to be obnoxiously hard to quit when there’s a whole cupboard full of free, really delicious sticky sweet dank Cali medical grade bud and oh, did I mention I LIVE IN A GROW ROOM FOR CHRISSAKES. I wake up to the smell of ripe, crystally Ghost OG flowering beautifully. This is a temporary situation and hopefully I can move out soon. Part of me is telling me to wait until I do, but I want to prove to myself that I am strong enough to do this.
This has been a great site, your comments have all made me feel not so alone, and holy novel, Batman, I did not know I had this much on my mind. Thanks and good luck to you all.
On This topic I could really use some help. How do you deal with the fact that i live in a place were weed has been a way of life for over 45years. I have lived here 43 years. my first joint was given to me at age 9 and every day since. I can’t leave i have family and responablitys. I can’t ask people to stop around me. its a way of life here. when you go some where its only polite to smoke. if you don’t its like saying you don’t like them or your weed is to good for them.
look its been in my life my whole life. my life is built around it. any idea would really be great. thanks Glen
for my part i,ve beeen smoking since the 80′s and it is part of my everyday almost the hole day high, i ve been wanting to quit to be free and get in a plane and spend a vacation w/o thinking about it, i am broke to pay for everything except grass isn’t that phony i can only hope to find the joy i used to have w/o marijuana. i,ve quit many things but i keep postponing on this one just thinking in what will be next. the
truth i dont have friends with or without mj so i’ve decided to quit even if it is the last thing i do. i feel it has alter the real person i am or was, i hate been in dependency of criminals to get the fix and have had terrible experiences in just getting it. i’ve been off for a week and
can’t wait to start counting months, it really does not deliver anything but pain and insecurity. i really wish i never tried before
but now i have to be strong to overcome this addiction. i have turned down nice trips thinking in how to be just for a week or less w/o i,m
isolated getting high and thinking about everything i will do that never done. the devil is in the details
As much as I try to dismiss it, I admit that I have a problem controlling my weed habit. It wouldn’t be as bad if it were legal, but to get any kind of a decent job in this country requires a drug test.
Simultaneously, I am also quitting cigarette usage which came as a direct result of the weed. Once I discovered cigarettes give you a nice buzz, I quickly overcompensated on those especially when weed was scarce or too expensive to obtain.
I have been able to quit the cigarettes, but giving up weed has been incredibly difficult. My reasons for smoking is because it serves as such a good anti-depressant…and the times I took actual anti-depressants led to disastrous results. I have a PTSD and weed calms me down….I hate our puritan country for legalizing crap that can kill you (booze, pills), yet outlaw a plant and make it impossible to get a good job when invasively drug tested.
I’m angry about giving up weed, but maybe that is a part of the process. I know I have to quit but at the same time I am pissed off that I have to.
I’ve enjoyed reading all your stories. It fills me with a sense that not only am I not alone, but there are loads of people going through the same thing as I do.
I’ve been smoking constantly for the past 5 or 6 years. So much of my energy has been ploughed into weed and I have got little in exchange. I’ve spent so much money on weed it makes me sick. Even though I was living my life, I feel like I have only just woken up from my stoney haze. Weed abuse has negatively affected my friendships, relationships, job, motivation, enthusiasm for life…. I haven’t dealt with a single issue in past 5 or 6 years without resorting to MJ.
A couple weeks ago my girlfriend said that she couldn’t remember the last time we hung out without me being stoned. Quite literally, my entire relationship has been a stoney haze because if I am not at work, I am high.
I have decided that I do not want to quit MJ forever. I don’t want to give it up forever. I want to redefine my relationship with MJ so I can appreciate it occasionally and get silly/laugh/buzz etc without feeling guilty. I have no emotional attachment to alcohol and I want MJ to fulfill the same role as alcohol – a fun social lubricant NOTHING more.
MJ abuse has meant that I have not dealt with my own internal conflicts, issues and difficulties. It all gets repressed below a cloud of smoke.
More than anything, I want to feel normal. I want to enjoy a day, a moment or occasion without thinking of smoking. I want my natural chemistry to kick in. I’m sick of being governed by intoxicants.
Weed is not the root of my issues. That’s for sure. Weed just makes it impossible for me to address these issues constructively.
I am giving myself a 3 month break of MJ. If my mindset isn’t different, then continue not to smoke until I feel something.
I know I can do it, but I am scared and it freaks me out. All I want ot do is smoke but I know that it won’t make me feel better about anything.
LAST THING I WILL SAY IS THIS: stopping MJ and stopping the abuse is not giving anything up. Instead you are gaining something: a productive and fruitful relationship with your mind, your body, your friendships, your job….
Wish me luck.
Alright guys im 17 been smoking too much for too long but I find that being sober is boring I know I’m going down a path of destruction but at my age i seem to be out doing more with my day rather than most people, I mean I smoke but I still play guitar and exercise regularly but knowing I have an addictive personality makes me feel so guilty when I have the intelligence to know better, it’s always ” just one cone maaan” living in Australia alcohol is a massive part of our culture and I fear when I quit I’ll just be like my grandad dad and my son.. Think I just need a girlfriend but girls my age are somewhat immature? I’m not quite sure but weed doesn’t buy itself so wish me luck in learning a language as a way out of this depressive reoccurring self inflicted addiction.
i have been smoking for around 5 years or so. im now 18 and i smoke ATLEAST 1 blunt a day for the past five years . its hard to quit when thats all i have done this past 5 years. i have stopped only for 1 day and already feeling some symptons i have no appetite for food and i cant sleep. I dont really know what to do while im not smoking but think about the next blunt. i just lost a relationship because she didnt like that i smoked. im mad at myself that i let get to this. I wasted already around $10,000. the things i could have done with that are incredible. i let get to me so bad that every year in high school i said to myself i would join a sport and i never did. i really regret doing so. even though in the beggenning it was only in the weekends now its everyday. now my mom is about to kick me out because i smoke weed but i keep on telling myself that its not a bad thing. “ITS ONLY WEED” i tell myself.(its only an excuse to smoke). im not even trying to stop smoking forever but i do want to only smoke occasionaly. Like once a month atleast. I have stopped drinking and smoking cigarrettes but weed sems really hard too quit.
haha weed confessions
Been smoking weed since i was 16 nearly 4 years, I dont feel that it made a difference in my life but i cant really tell. my dad told me that it made me unsocial and rude with ppl. i find it hard to belieave as i have smoker friends and non smokers. But i think its time to go clean and really see whats all the big fuss about.Been clean for 2 days now kinda bored and pissed off i even broke up with my girlfriend yesterday as she was pissin me off saying crap like dont worry u will be fine and shit.She has to understand that i wil be fine aslong i am not reminded of pot! anyway not a bigdeal. the only prob um facing is i dont really feel like eating at all. Hope i didnt offend any 1 here i know every1 here is going through a hard time including my self .
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