Well… I understand how you feel. You don’t really want to quit, do you? You are having fun with it, right? I know how it is. Been there. Actually what made me quit was the realization that I was ruining my girlfriend’s life with it.
See, she’s not a smoker, so she couldn’t “enjoy” it with me, which actually turned out to be good, because she didn’t have to go through detox. So what happened was when I first started smoking, everything was swell. I was happy, laughing, excited and absorbing my new experiences. It never occurred to me that I should actually quit smoking pot until the day I couldn’t control myself and got into a major argument with someone I love.
I realized then, that smoking pot will not get me anywhere. I knew that if I don’t do something about that, I’d lose her and I’d end up a miserable man.
What did I do then? I decided to quit smoking pot.
I went to the doctor that showed me exactly what I had to do. He said I should go and follow a program that he suggested, which I gladly did. Of course I missed pot at that time. I was really easily irritated and just got mad very quickly at about anyone and anything, but I knew that if I try, I’ll manage to overcome the urge to smoke.
The program I was following was not very easy to get through. The crazy thing was that the things they tought in there were not really revolutionary. I mean, the guys on that tape got me jumping, running, drinking gallons of water and orange juice and eating lots of fresh vegetables. Not too bad for someone who would skip breakfast and have a joint for dinner.
I almost forgot about the withdrawal. Let me tell you, it was pretty nasty. I mean, I was shaking all the time, I was feeling dizzy, I was getting really light headed at times and I would wake up covered in cold sweat a few nights in a row. Not necessarily a good thing, is it?
I guess what I am trying to say is that it did work in the end. It definitely was not easy, but it was more than worth it. Don’t get me wrong, deciding to quit smoking pot was hard, but actually quitting it was even harder.
In the end, I am clean and happy. My girlfriend is doing ok as well and we’re actually thinking about getting married. I still remember the times when I smoked and miss the experiences I had then, but what I have now is much more valuable.
It’s really good to quit. Good luck!
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“follow a program that he suggested”which one?
PLEASE recommend…
It’s “ugly” over here…
Thanks
If he doesn’t tell you anything, here are some tip: you’re a strong human being to realize the problem when you put your foot to it , you can quit cold turkey, just be prepared for emotional changes and remind yourself whenever you are angry that it could be because f marijuana withdrawal.
my boyfriend smokes i don’t its not that i don’t like it its just i don’t like him doing it its putting a huge strain on our relationship but he can’t tell he is oblivious to it i love him and want to marry him some day but the way its going right now that isn’t gonna happen he doesn’t notice how it hurts me and i don’t know how to help him quit i want him to grow up and figure out there is more to life than pot i just need help!!!
marijuana.
fuck weed itsd a plant we can overcome a plant we can overcome anything out minds out a powerfull thing. stay positive and love live and crank one out to feel good
no ones perfect weed isnt perfect
weed makes u feel something is lost inyourself
find ways to cope
i smoked the shit 4 13 years high all day everyday. from the time i woke up till bed. i did everything high. i was mess. life isnt easy quitting isnt easy. the thing that made me quite is i said im 24 ive been high since 13 thats half of my life high. i wasted so much time ailleyenated so many people. got to the point where my only friend was a highschool smoker who i started with. being high was the best thing in my life. nothing was fun nothing matter the only good thing was that i was high. now i sit here with one bowl infront me and i dont even smoke it. that little mother fucker is not going to controll my god damb life
were all peoople
its a plant
were people way more complex way more everything
take it hour by hour day by day drink cold watter play
go for a drive break the habbit and lost the affliction
i was only as good as the last time i used. yes i love weed
i still love the feeling of being high. but ultimatly i just said one day no more. it was like i could finally see clearly.
the first day is shit pure n utter hell becasue were so use to doing it our minds are angry for making a consious decsion not to smoke the shit. we need to take it hour by hour the first day
if ur a heavy smoker like was. replasing will scare the shit out of oyu making u sweet hurt fell physcotic and it will make u go nuts.
qutting is good this web site helped me out. its good to know others are dealing with this shit. no one wants to see someone go down a dark hole no one wants to waste away. some people use for anger reasons like me. thats bad beacuse anger shuts down the brain god gave u. anger is a suplement of things in the world we cannot controll and weed while using it for anger and depression only hides those feelings suppressing them making them hurt yourself and one day maybe ending your life
You sound much like my now ex-boyfriend. I don’t smoke and never have. It is frowned upon by my family and friends. It was to the point that my father didn’t want anything to do with me because I was associated with weed. We tried making our relationship work; however, it just couldn’t. Now we’re friends, and I want to help him. He has asked me to help. He’s finally decided that weed is worth quitting. What can I do to help him? I still love him. I didn’t and I don’t love weed. It’s not a part of him; he’s now seeing that.
hello i am 2ks
kind regards2 and am having a little girl i am ashamed to say that i am having troube getting off marijuana i only started 2 years ago as my fiance is and was a smoker and i took it up when we met.
I need help to quit asap as i am feeling really bad of myself for smoking while pregnant, i feel alone,sad, and believe with the right advice and help i can quit than
My 19 year old grandson has recently started smoking pot and doesn’t realize how it has affected him and the people around him. His girlfriend can’t put up with his behavior, all he does is sleep and smoke and I want to know how to help him realize that he is making horrible decisions for his life and those around him that love him. How can I get him to stop hanging out with the “friends” who are supplying him with this drug? He isn’t interested in anything except getting high. He does not work and has no plans of changing his current lifestyle.Please help!!
Hi I’m pretty much in the same situation. I have a lovely girlfriend and daughter as well as this addiction to weed. I promised her I would quit for the sake of my family but its hard and she doesn’t understand which leads to more arguments as I try to hide the fact I still smoke it. I want to quit for them as I find myself lying to her all of the time and missing out on spending time with my little girl. I just don’t know where to start, doesn’t really help that my friends smoke it on a daily basis so I know Its always there. I feel I’m going to lose them that these threats she will leave me are now promises
John, I wish my boyfriend was more like you. We broke up several times over major arguments after which he would leave to get pot.He would get furious when I didn’t have pot at my place for him. He moved back to CA from here and immediately got a card for medical marijuana and he’s trying to sell whatever he doesn’t use out of the eight ounces allotted per person there by FED EX to TN. He broke up with me now, but I always want to have sober conversations with him. He doesn’t remember our time together like I do, and I KNOW that he misses me. I don’t smoke like your girlfriend, and I know that a lot of things would have been different if we were both sober when we were together. He’s been a MONSTER to me since I got him on a plane to California supposedly to save his young children from potential and or current physical andsexual abuse I put him on the plane hoping to save his kids, but he says his mom lied to get him back living with her, and the kids were never in danger.
I saw him have withdrawels like from a hard drug while he was here in Tennessee. I asked him to tell me what he had been doing or taking, but he insisted only pot.
As soon as he was able to smoke weed, He smoked it with all the pleasure of the worst cases of addiction to hard drug.
I thought this was very strange.
I smoked pot when I was younger, and none of my friends nor I experienced this level of severity.
Maybe the plants are being changed or maybe we are all just waking up.
I see sober as better.
I wish my boyfriend had been willing to live his life sober, but he did everything stoned.
If he had been sober, I think we would not have argued so terribly.
I think that if we had both been sober that we would be together whichever state we would live in.
I hope you and your girlfriend do get married.
I wish you the best, and I thank you for the encouraging post.
I am breaking up with my boyfriend because he is addicted to pot and video games, because he is fucking selfish and only cares about indulging himself all the time.
When I met him 5 years ago he told me that he is quitting but smoked hardly for weeks as he would die if he didn’t. At that time I found it strange I thought if you really want to quit something then you just don’t do it anymore! But believed him… We moved in together and he didn’t smoke in the first couple of years…Then he got a new job and a new friend who turned out to be an alcoholic. His friend likes going to a bar where the owner sells pot…So this place became a special place to be visited weekly…sometimes few times a week…Imagine boyfriend weekly stoned and drunk ..Plus, he happened to have a special bond with his old roommate and a friend-drug pusher… Anything I say did not change his opinion about his drug pusher friend …I told him that he is not your friend, he is only making his business on you! He does not believe me!!! I told him many times that I can’t live with a guy who puts his addictions above his relationships, but he believes he is NOT ADDICTED! He argues that he can stop anytime he wants , that he works and makes money. That is true that he has a job. But he tries everything not go to work or at least work from home so he can play video games and smoke. During weekdays he plays till 1-2 am every night, on Friday and weekend nights he plays till 5 am. Anything else outside of games and pot is nonsense to him…
I don’t know what i have became for him…I feel I wasted 5 years of my life…
My name is Adrian i am 15 and have been smoking weed since i was 12.Ive been wanting to make a change because my life constantly revolves around it ,like for example ….as soon as i wake up the first thing on my mind is how am i going to get high today.I waste 20 dollers every day just to end up sleeping for most of the time :/somthing inside me tells me i should quit but i really dont want to . i know i have an addiction because i rely on it to be happy i just need help any ideas?
my girlfriend of two yrs. broke up with me this past summer, i wouldnt smoke pot eith her so i dont think she was comfortable with me anymore.she has smoked for yrs. but this last winter started smoking more powerful pot and just withdrew into a shell and wouldnt talk to anybody. when she left in august she moved in with a guy who smoked a lot also,who had abadoned his girl too, now they both just live off of his s.s. ck and stay in and smoke, theyve lost touch with there families,hope there happy theyve just hurt a lot of people and dont seem to care
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Hi , my husband and I stopped smoking pot on New Years Eve. I have found it hard to sleep, my husband has hardly slept a wink and he has pains in the legs. Is this normal?
I started smoking pot when i was about 11 years old. not to mention cigarettes when i was 10. now I’m 41 and I have to quit because i got arrested for possession, a class b misdemeanor. it comes with a mandatory suspension of my driver lic. i was just about to start school to get my cdl..in order to keep my lic. I have agreed to pay a fine of 1150.00 up front, and piss in a cup for 12 months. if I fail and get into trouble the charges come back and i loose my privilege to drive . this never happens to drunk drivers…I never thought I had a problem. now I am forced to quit, and I realize I do have a problem. I AM addicted. I WILL have withdrawal symptoms . I wont be able to hang out with people…my closest friends. family…no dj’n parties..being mostly alone until I can be strong around them…and I have to do this, its not even something i want to do. I have a script from a doctor in california…but im here in utah now..very difficult this is. and not much useful info on how to do it…with out lapsing or going insane.
oh and I did quit cigarettes
15 years ago…this seems harder
This past December I lost the love of my life, my fiancee (now ex-fiancee), because of my weed addiction. Her and I were together for 3 1/2 years, and for the most part it was a good relationship. We shared the same values, principles, life goals, interests, humor, lifestyle, etc. We were a pretty good match except for one big thing; weed. Unfortunately I was a chronic and she never smoked. Although we loved each other a great deal, my weed habit made me “disconnected” and in turn this hurt her a great deal. It also turned me into a homebody and turned me into a negative person. She was very unhappy because of my habit and my subsequent behavior.
She broke it off with me last summer but after some talks and negotiations she gave me another chance and came back. I told her at the time that I would stop smoking weed. I didn’t. I’m not entirely sure why, but I didn’t realize how much my addiction really affected her (and me). 6 months later she had had enough. She told me that she believed that we were not meant for each other and that she had lost her love for me. Essentially she had given up hope on me and us. This made her leave a second time, and this time it was for good. She has zero intentions of getting back with me.
She left me on December 19th, 2011. That night I decided that I was never to smoke weed ever again. I have’t touched the stuff since and I will never ever do it again. It’s might be a little late for me but lesson learned.
To all of you who are in a relationship and smoke weed: STOP NOW. STOP BEING SELFISH. STOP BEING STUPID. Take care of yourself so that you can better take care of others. You deserve it as well as the important people in your life, including your loved one.
Wow! thirtina i thought i had it bad! i gave up smoking 2 days ago! after 18 years of smoking the stuff and am feeling terrible. No sleep, snapping at my wife for every little thing, smoking ten times more cigarettes than before just to keep my fingers busy! but what you have went thru make me feel that my problems are nothing! God i hope u can do it! be strong! this also is the hardest thing i have ever done in my life!
I smoke marijuana on occasion.
Maybe four times a year maximum. I came here to try and understand marijuana addiction as I’ve never had an addiction to it.
I did smoke almost daily for a while, but it was more just because there wasn’t much else to do. I also smoked cigarettes.
The pot just stopped one day because I didn’t have any money or something. I’m not sure. It was not a conscious choice. It just happened.
I am having difficulty understanding the physical symptoms of addiction since I smoked very frequently (Let’s say three times a day-ish for about two years) before suddenly stopping and had no symptoms of withdrawal.
I am using your website to educate myself on addiction. Especially Marijuana addiction.
I want to understand how only some people become addicted. I understand booze requires a lot of consumption before it becomes addictive. (And the reason why I smoke marijuana now is because I don’t find alcohol to be a fun time at all, but I still like to party every once in a while.)
Iis this the same with marijuana? Is it addictive only after consuming large amounts for many years?
I’m not sure.
But I am trying to understand so I can help be a better support system for others.
My son smokes weed, he does’t see it as a problem or any harm, he lost 2 years of school and now university, he doesn’t work, he has no real life. I tried to make him understand that this will make him ok on short term but on long term he’ll lose, but he is not listening, he lies always too. What can I do to help him. I don’t want to see him losing his life. Please We need help.
I just turned 40 and realized that I have been smoking for the last 22yrs.
I was looking back at old pictures ,and realized how much of my portential I had wasted and for what .sitting in a room watching mindless T.V ,eating junk and looking 50 at 40 !
I m doing my best to quit,but have just had a joint after 10hrs and It feels great.
But I feel so guilty and useless fo having had this joint.
Any tips on how to stop the next one into seducing me.
I have been with my boyfriend almost two and a half years. I don’t smoke and am at the point where I’m ready to leave. We live together and I love him, but he is a different person when he is high…one I don’t want to date/live with. He doesn’t think it’s a problem and if I make him choose between it and me I am sure he would choose me and resent me for it. Is there any way to help someone who doesn’t want to quit?
Thirtina, Im in day 8 and finding it hard, all I can say is try and keep busy and when the cravings hit home hard find a dark place and try to sleep, they pass after a bit. Good luck, I’m finding it hard but it can be done!
so sick of having a substance controlling my life!
I’ve smoked weed for about 17 years and i have recently gone cold turkey due to my wife leaving me.. We were together for 8 years and I feel it has played a large part in my marriage going wrong. I also have two young boys which have also been a big motivational factor.
I would wake up and smoke a splif and if I didn’t have any I would search for it until I got some, it had taken over my life, I have a good job and I keep fit but as other people have said on here I depended on it to get through my day. I didn’t really see it as a problem but I new I was addicted. I have lots of friends who smoke it so I just carried on and told myself I didn’t do hard drugs or drink alcohol so it was alright to have some sort of vice. My wife never really said it was a problem and she didn’t really leave me for smoking it but I know in myself it hasn’t helped the situation.. My children are also still very young and I don’t want them to grow up and see what i was doing. It is very hard to not smoke it and I still get the urge but I know I have to be strong! I don’t really get the shakes or get angry but I do crave it and I have a lot of difficulty sleeping and my dreams are very weird sometimes. I want to get on with my life and be there for my boys so that is the biggest motivational factor I could have.
My mind feels clearer and I am a lot more articulate which is good. Before I would be reclusive and I found it difficult to socialise in normal society but now I have gained a lot more self confidence and I feel a better person for that. Believe me I still think about smoking it but it’s just not worth it anymore. I have a lot more direction in life now and i plan on doing a lot of things that I never got round to doing while I was smoking. I try to take each day as it comes and I have focused a lot more on what is important in my life.. My friends who smoke it are very supportive and they want to stop too but until things start to go seriously wrong in your life then it’s hard to stop! Weed seems to just blank your mind and gives u a way out. Don’t be as foolish as I have been.. stop smoking it!
I’m from India and I’v been smokin’ marijuana for the past 8 yrs and it has transformed my life drastically (for worse definetly). well, i do love the feel of being high on marijuana and though i also drink alcohol, i dont quite enjoy anything as much as ganja. i used to b an athelete, played almost all the common sports till i joined my engineering college n started with pot. i used to b a vibrant, optimistic and confident guy. soo much has changed over the past 8 yrs without actually realising it.
I did quit chillam and pot n have bin stuffing cigarettes to ensure it remains least harmful buh actually quitting it has jus been a dream. buh i certainly want to quit. i messed out on 2 beautiful relationships over these years and now i think i’v had enuf f it. there’s soo much more that i’v missed out on and i certainly miss my sporting days. i jus hope i can this time around. i love smoking up buh i cannot risk my future and my life for it. i dont want to see myself smokin weed and lamenting about wat better i could have done with my life. i really dont kno how i shud go about it buh i am sure i’v had enough f this wonderful drug!!
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